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Q: What women examples are in the Qur'an?
A: Allah gave an example of those who disbelieved the wife of Noah* and the wife of Lut**; They were under two
servants from Our righteous servants so they betrayed them; So they availed (be of use) them nothing from Allah and
it was said: Enter both of you Hell with the entering people. and Allah gave an example of those who believed the woman of Pharaoh (Phiroun) when she said: My God! Build for me near you a house in Paradise and save me from Pharaoh (Phiroun) and his
work and save me from the tyrannical people. And Mary (Maryam) daughter of Imran who guarded her vulva (female opening) so
We blew in it from Our Spirit (Gabriel = Jibreel)*** and she believed as truth in the words of her God and His Books and
she was from the devoutly obedient to Allah.
Translation of: Ayat 10 - 12, Surat AlTahreem.
* wife of Noah used to tell people that Noah was a mad person.
** wife of Lut used to tell about the male guests to their house to invite men's adultry with them.
*** Angel Gabriel blew in Mary through the pocket of her gown.
Words: Dharaba Masthal = Gave an example, Imr'at = Woman - Wife (remember in Pharoh's time
men could marry their sisters), Abd = Servant, Khanat =
Betrayed, Yughni
= Avails - Be of use, Udkhul = Admit, Imra'at = Woman - Wife, Najini = Save me, Ahsanat
= Guarded, Faraj = Vulva - Female Opening, Nafakha = Blew, Rooh = Spirit (Gabriel), Saddaqat =
Believed as truth, Kalimaat = Words, Qaanit = Devoutly obedient - Obedient humbly.
Q: Can married men have sex with their women at the time of their menstruation (period)?
A: And they ask you (Prophet Muhammad) about the menstruation. Say: It is harmful so isolate yourselves from the women in the
place of menstruation (woman's opening); And do not approach them (in this specific place) until they become cleansed;
So when they become
cleansed you can make love with them in where Allah has ordered you (women's opening); For Allah likes those who
repent and He likes those who keep themselves clean.
Translation of: Ayah 222, Surat AlBaqarah.
Note: In a summary of a saying by the Prophet Muhammad: On the Day of Judgment Allah will not look at a man who has
sex with his wife in the anus.
Words: Yasal = Ask, Maheedh = Menstration place, Atha = Harmful, I'tazel = Stay away Taqrab =
Approach, Yat'tahir = Become cleased, Atou = Make love - Approach, Amara = Ordered, Tawwab =
One who repents, Mutatahir = Who keeps himself clean.
Q: Why had Allah made men caretakers of women?
Note: Remember the Qur'an is from Allah not man-made.
A: Men are caretakers of women* because of what Allah favoured some of them (men with physical strength) above the
others (women); And because what they had spent from their money (dowry etc.);** So the righteous women are devoutly
obedient, and guard in (the husband's) absence what Allah want them to guard***; And those you fear their
arrogant disobedience then advise them and (if they do not listen) abandon them in beds and (if they do not listen)
beat them**** so if they (women) obey you then do not transgress against them in any way for Allah is
Exalted, The Most High. And if you fear a breach between them then send a judge from his family and a judge from her
family: If they want a reconciliation Allah will grant success between them for Allah is
All-Knowledgeable, All-Expert.
Translation of: Ayat 34 - 35, Surat AlNisa'.
* Women have the protection of men.
** In Islam husbands have to spend from their money on their wives and on the whole household. The wives spend only voluntarily from
their money.
*** Their chastity and property, reputation...etc. of their husbands.
**** According to a direction from the Prophet Muhammad the beating should not cause body harm like not to hit the
face. (It is the last step to make the things up between husband and wife without interference from others).
Words: Rijal = Men, Qawwam = Caretaker - Protector, Faddala = Favoured, Nisa' =
Women, Ba'dh ala Ba'dh = Some above the others, Anfaqa = Spent, Salihat = Righteous women, Qanitat =
Devoutly obedient, Hafidhat Lilgayb = Guarding in absence, Noshouz = Arrogant disobedience, Idhou =
Advise, Ata'na = Obeyed, Sabeel = Way, Khifta = You feared, Shiqaq = Breach - Discord, Eb'es(th)
= Send, Hakam = Judge, Ahl = Family, Islah = Reconciliation, Yuwafiq = Grants success.
Q: How is Mary (Maryam) the mother of Jesus defended in the Qur'an?
A: And because of their (a group of Jews) disbelieving (in Allah) and their utterance against Mary
(Maryam) a grave false accusation (of unchastity). --- and We (Allah) had prepared for the disbelievers among them
a severe punishment (on Day of Judgment).
Translation of: Ayat 156, 161, Surat AlNisa'.
* In a summary of a speech of the Prophet Muhammad: Many men reached the level of religious perfection. Yet among
the women four reached such level. The Prophet took a stick and made four lines on the ground and said: Maryam
Bint Imran (Mary the mother of Jesus), Khadija Bint Khuwailad (the first wife of the Prophet
Muhammad), Fatimah Bint Muhammad (the
daughter of Prophet Muhammad) and Asya Bint Muzahim (the woman of Pharaoh = Phiroun). Source: Dr. Tareq Suwaidan's "Stories
of the Prophets. CD no. 16." Dr. Tareq further points to the power of good care and good rearing up that made the
four women very special. Maryam raised Jesus, Khadija
supported the Prophet Muhammad, Fatima was reared up by the Prophet Muhammad and Khadija, and Asya raised Moses peace
be upon the Prophets and may Allah be pleased with their beloved family members.
Words: BiKufrihim = Because of their disbelieving - Because of their rejection of Faith,
Qawl = Utterance, Buhtan = False accusation, Atheem = Grave - Very terrible.
Q: According to Allah are the wives of the Prophet Muhammad the same as any other women?
A: O wives of the Prophet you are not like any other women if you protect yourselves by fearing Allah
so do not be submissive in speech* lest the one who has sickness (psychological) in his heart should be
moved with lust and say kind words; And settle in your houses** and do not display your charms
like the displaying of the former Ignorance time (pre-Islam) and perform the prayer and give the prescribed
charity and obey Allah and His prophet (Muhammad) - for Allah indeed wants to eliminate the bad acts from you -
the People of the House (Prophet Muhammad's) and to purify you a complete purification; And
memorize what is being recited in your houses from Allah's Lines (Qur'an) and Wisdom for Allah is the Most-Kind,
the Well-Acquainted.
Translation of: Ayat 32 - 34, Surat AlAhzab.
* Not to playfully soften the speech.
** Do not go out without a genuine reason. Talk with marriageable men (= not maharim) behind a veil or
a partition.
Note: Remember: "--- and his (Prophet Muhammad's) wives are their (the faithful's) mothers"
translation of line 6 in Chapter AlAhzab in the Qur'an. (The Prophet's respected wives followed Allah's
commands for them. When the Prophet's respected wife "A'ishah" was
accidentally left behind in
a caravan trip, the Prophet's companion who was behind the caravan found her crouched and fully covered up in
her black cloak to the extent that
he thought of her as a black rock). Source: Shaikh Muhammad AlShareef's Friday sermon at the Islamic Institute of
Toronto, 19 March 2010. Also A'ishah may Allah be pleased with her, after the Prophet Muhammad used to teach the
Religion to even men with a partition between her and the men. Source: Shaikh Waleed Basyouni's "Obligation of
following Sahabah's Methodology: Questions and answers."
Words: Nisa' = Wives - Women, Takhdu'na = Submissive - Complaisant, BilQawl = In
speech, Maradh = Sickness, Qarna = Settle - Stay, Tabarrajna = Display your charms, Tabarruj =
Displaying, Ate'na = Obey, Yuthhib AlRijs = Eliminate the bad acts, Yutahhir = Purify. Tattheer =
Complete purification.
Q: According to Allah how are the wives of the Prophet Muhammad different from any other women?
A: O women of the Prophet whoever of you comes up with an evident sin punishment will be
multiplied for her double and that is for Allah easy; And whoever of you submissively obeys Allah
and His Prophet and does good acts We (Allah) will repay her reward twice and We
had prepared for her generous sustenance (in Paradise).
Translation of: Ayat 30 - 31, Surat AlAhzab.
Words: Ya'ti = Comes up - Commits, Fahisha = Sin, Mubayenah = Evident,
Yudha'af = Doubled, Yudha'af = Will be multiplied - Will be increased, Dhi'fayn = Double,
Yaqnut = Submissively obeys, Saliha = Good
acts, Ajr = Reward, Marratayn = Twice, Rizq = Sustenance, Kareem = Generous - Good.
Q: What type of life did the wives of the Prophet Muhammad were commanded by Allah to live?
Hint: Remember that Allah says that the Prophet's wives are different from any other women.
A: O Prophet (Muhammad) say to your wives if they want the life of this world and its
attraction so come I supply you with adequate provision and I release (divorce) you with a kind
release; But if you want Allah and His Prophet and the Other World so Allah had prepared for
those who perfect their Faith* among you a great Reward.
Translation of: Ayat 28 - 29, Surat AlAhzab.
* As Allah commands them to have a special purified life as the "mothers of the faithful".
Note: Remember that the Prophet Muhammad had only one wife "Khadija" which was
unusual then for a famous man like the Prophet. Only after her death when the Prophet was fifty years
old the Prophet married other women - most of them were previously married. His marriages were out of
compassion for suffering widows and/or to prepare religiously "the mothers of the faithful" as Allah
calls the wives of the Prophet. They transferred the knowledge they heard from the Prophet. For example
a lot of the Prophet's sayings that we have now are originally narrated by the Prophet's respected
wife "A'ishah". Several of the Prophet's wives came from rich backgrounds but still they were giving
whatever comes their way to charity in order to live as Allah commanded them.
Words: Zeenataha = Its physical attraction - Its charms - Its decoration, Umatte'akunna = Supply you
with adequate provision, Usarrihkunna = I release you, Sarahhan Jameela = With a kind
release, Turidna = You want, Muhsinat = (Females) Who perfect their Faith - Who do good acts,
Ajr = Reward.
Q: Why were the Prophet Muhammad's wives commanded by Allah to live very restricted
lives?
A: (Allah says) O people who have faith do not enter the houses of the Prophet (Muhammad) except when you are given
permission for food not (so early) waiting for its preparation - but when you are invited then enter and when you
have eaten then disperse (outside the house) without being intimate with a talk for such (behaviour) was annoying the
Prophet but he feels shy of you and Allah is not shy of the Truth - and if you ask them for a provision then ask them
from behind a screen for that is more pure to your hearts and their (wives') hearts and you have not the right to harm
Allah's Prophet or ever to marry his widows after him for that is according to Allah a grave sin.
Translation of: Ayah 53, Surat AlAhzab.
Words: Tadkhul = Enter, Boyout = Houses, Yu'yhan = Given permission, Ta'am = Food, Ghayr = Not,
Nadhir = Waithing, Intashir = Disperse - Spread - Go out, Hadeeth = Talk, Yu'thi = Harms, Yastahi =
Be shy, Sa'ala = Ask, Mata'e = Provision - Something - Object, Hijab = Screen, Athar = More pure, Kuloub =
Hearts, Azwaj = Widows - Wives, Ba'd = After, Abadan = Never - Ever, Adheem = Great (sin).
Q: Who commanded women to dress modestly and cover up their physical attraction?
Note: Women of pre-Islamic era in Arabia (known as the era of Ignorance) used to pass among men with visible
cleavage (the depression between a woman's breasts) and different sorts of attractive behaviour. Some used to
stamp their feet so that their anklets make sounds that attract men's attention. Source: Tafseer Ibn Kastheer, volme 3, pages
415 - 416.
A: And tell (command to Prophet Muhammad) the believing females to turn away or aside their eyes (overlook in
modesty), to guard their private places and not to reveal their physical attraction except what (ordinarily) appears* and
let them draw their
head-scarves over their bosoms (chests) and not to reveal their physical attraction except to their husbands, their
fathers**, their husbands' fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons (from other marriages), their brothers, their
brothers' sons, their sisters' sons, their womenfolk, what they own (of slaves), and from the male attendants (servants)
who are free of sexual desires (with mental or physical disorders) and the children who are not yet aware of
women's genitals - and let them not stamp their
feet to make revealed what they are hiding of their physical attraction and turn to Allah in repentance, O believers so that you may
achieve prosperity (from Allah).
Translation of: Ayah 31, Surat AlNoor.
* In a summary of a saying of the Prophet Muhammad: When the female reaches puberty only the face (the Prophet
circled his face) and the hands should be seen from her (= Inna AlMar'ah itha balaghat almaheedh lem yasluh an yura
minh illa hatha, waashara ila wajhihi wakafayhi). Source: Tafseer Ibn Kastheer, volume 3, page 416. Also Sheikh Hassanain Muhammad
Makhlouf, Egypt's ex-Mufti in "Safwat AlBayan LiM'ani AlQur'an", page 451 said: "the face, the hands and maybe the feet to
drive away embarrassment and danger (= Dafe' AlHarj).
** A list of not marriageable men (= Mahaarim),
Note: In a summary of a saying of the Prophet Muhammad: Beware not to enter where women are alone. A man
asked the Prophet: What about the relative of the husband such as his brother or his cousin (= AlHamou) the
Prophet answered: AlHamou is death.
In a summary of a saying of the Prophet Muhammad: Do not be alone with a woman except when she is with her non
marriageable man (= mahram). Source: Riyadh AlSaliheen Min Kalam Sayed AlMursaleen, page 451.
Words: Yagdhudhna Absaruhumnna = Turn away or aside their eyes, Yahfudhuna = Guard, Furoujuhunna
= Their private places - Their vulvae, Yubeena = Reveal, Zeenatahunna = Their physical attraction, Dhahara = Appears,
Boulatihinna = Their husbands, Aba' = Fathers, Abna = Sons, Ikhwan = Brothers, Bani = Sons, Malakat
Aymanuhunna = They own (of slaves), Tabe'een = Attendants - Servants, Gharyr = Free of, Uli AlIrbah =
Free of sexual desires, AlTifl = The children, Awrat = Genitals - Nakedness, Ma Yukhfeena = What they are hiding,
Tubou Ila Allah = Turn to Allah in repentance.
Q: Are breast milk banks allowed in Islam?
A: Forbidden to you ((in marriage) are your mothers, your daughters,
your sisters, your paternal aunts, your maternal aunts, the brother's daughters, the sister's
daughters and your (foster) mothers who breast fed you and your (foster) sisters from
breastfeeding, and your mothers in law, your step-daughters, who
are under your guardianship, from your wives with whom you had intercourse but if you did not have
intercourse with them (marriage plans cancelled) then there is no blame on you, and the wives of your
begotten sons and (forbidden) to join (in marriage) two sisters with the exception of what is past for Allah is
Most-Forgiving, Most-Merciful.
Translation of: Ayah 23, Surat AlNisa'.
A Note: Babies who consume the milk of a woman become her foster children (by breastfeeding) although
they are not related to her by birth. When
they grow up they cannot get married to one another neither can they marry her biological children because they have
become siblings (by breastfeeding)
(= Ikhwah bilRida'ah). The Prophet Muhammad's birth mother was Aminah Bint Wahab and his
foster-mother (by breastfeeding) was Halimah
AlSa'adeyah and her children were the Prophet's foster siblings. AlShayma' pronounced as AshShayma' as the Prophet's foster sister is known
in Islam.
Words: Hurrimat = Forbidden, Umahatukum = Your mothers, Banatukum =
Your daughters, Akhwatukum = Your dauthers, Ammatukum = Your paternal aunts,
Khaalatukum = Your maternal aunts, Allati Ardha'nakum = Who breast fed you, AlRadha'ah
Breastfeeding, Raba'ibukum = Your step daughters, Hujourikum = Under your guardianship,
Dakhaltum bihin = You had intercourse with them, Junaha = Blame, Halaail = Wives,
Min Aslabikum = Your begotten, Tajma'ou = Join, Salaf = Past.
Q: Can hatred of women be considered a major sin like killing?
Note: Reference A recent fatwa (5 February 2012)
considers "hatred of women" as a major sin.
A: O believers it is not lawful for you to inherit* women (after their husbands' death) forcibly - neither (lawful) to make it (life)
difficult for them so as to get away with what (dowry) you gave them except when they commit obvious immorality**
- and deal with them with kindness and if you hate them*** then you may hate something and
Allah makes in it much good****.
Translation of: Ayah 19, Surat AlNisa'.
* In pre-Islamic era (= AlJahiliyyah) Arab men used to inherit the wives of their relatives
when their husbands die. Such men used to prevent them from re-marrying other than whom they themselves decide. Or
they used to take back the dowry from them for setting them free. Source: Tafseer Ibn Kastheer, page 652 - 653.
** Such as adultery. In this case you can force her to give you back your dowry and leave her. Source: Tafseer Ibn Kastheer,
page 653.
*** If you hate them try to be patient.
**** You may have an offspring with much good from her. Source: Tafseer Ibn Kastheer, page 654
Words: La Yahil = It is not lawful, Taristhou = To inherit, Karhan =
Forcibly, La Ta'dholouhunna = Do not make it difficult for them, Litathhabou = To get
away, Ataytomouhunna = You gave them, Ya'teena BiFahishah = They commit immorality - They
commit adultery, Ashirouhunna = Deal with them, BilMa'rouf = With kindness, Takrahou =
You hate, Khayran = Good - Benefit.
